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How to Break Up with Your Fuck Buddy

Having a fuck buddy is a great way to release your sexual tension without having to deal with a lot of emotional baggage. However, there will undoubtedly come a time when you’re ready to move on. Whether you are in a relationship or you’re free and single, every relationship of this kind is on borrowed time.

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The best way to break things off is with a clean break.

But how do you go about ending what is a very unusual type of relationship? If you’ve tried hints, going quiet and various signals with your body language, it’s time to take decisive action. Fortunately, there are four tried and tested methods of breaking up with a sex buddy — you just need to decide which is best for your particular relationship.

1. Make a Clean Break

From the outset of your casual relationship, you should both be in agreement that things will end when romance blossoms somewhere else (unless you’re already in a relationship, of course). The best way to break things off when romance is involved is with a clean break.

Be upfront right from the start, and tell your sex buddy that your relationship with someone else has taken a more serious turn. And because things are relatively laid-back and casual, you should be able to do this with a text or an email. Be polite but firm, and don’t leave any room for ambiguity. You might also need to use this tactic if your fuck buddy just isn’t taking the hints you’ve been dropping.

2. A Protracted Break Up with a Set Date

You can enjoy a few last illicit encounters with your buddy by setting a date for an end to your relationship. This might be a good idea if you’re getting married, or if you’ve met someone new and want to test the waters before you break things off with your casual sex buddy. Set a date for the end of the arrangement, and you can both make the best of what time you have left.

3. Let Things Fizzle Out

If you don’t want the potential drama that comes with ending things, you can let the relationship reach a natural conclusion. And because you already have a casual arrangement, this shouldn’t be hard to do. Instead of meeting, say, once a week, limit your encounters to once a month. Also, gradually reduce the texts, emails and phone calls between you both. There will come a time when you both realise that contact has completely ended.

4. The Stand-Offish Approach

This could be the best approach if your fuck buddy simply doesn’t want to end things. By being stand-offish and distant, your sex friend will gradually lose interest and move onto someone else.

You can achieve this by giving one-word answers to questions, or by taking a while to reply to messages. Play things cool whenever you can, and try to come across as indifferent. When your fuck buddy tries to set a date, be vague with the arrangements.

A few weeks of this and your sex buddy will definitely get the message. But it’s always a good idea to keep your options open. Never burn your bridges completely, as you never know when you might be horny and in need of uncomplicated sex. Decide whether or not your sex buddy is worth holding onto by judging them on the following criteria.

  • Discretion - Your fuck buddy knows how to keep quiet, when to contact you and, most importantly, when not to contact you.
  • Flexibility - Your buddy can meet for no-strings sex pretty much when you want it.
  • Emotional stability - Your buddy never gets emotional or asks for anything more than hot sex.
  • Geography - Your sex buddy lives close by and can accommodate you when necessary.
  • Respectfulness - Just because you’re both fucking each other at every opportunity doesn’t mean your sex buddy shouldn’t show you the respect you deserve.
  • Honesty - Whether your sex friend is in a relationship or not, honesty is essential if your casual relationship is going to work.

One of the great things about this sort of casual relationship is that there is usually no big emotional scene when things are brought to an end. Nevertheless, you will want to make a break-up as smooth and amicable as possible. And you never know, if your fuck buddy is perfect for the role, you might want to start things up again in the future. So ditch your casual friend with care, and move onto the next chapter in your life without fear or regrets.

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